TYPES OF PASTORS' WIVES CLASSIFIED BY CHARACTER AND LIFESTYLE. By Celestine Aneke

TYPE OF PASTORS‘ WIVES CLASSIFIED BY CHARACTER AND LIFESTYLE

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; ...  

1 Timothy 2:9-15 ESV

Women are as diverse as they come hence they all come in different packages - it’s no secret and the Pastor's Wife won't be different. I will therefore delve straight into the  types of Pastors' Wives by character and lifestyle as we have them in our various churches and ministries and how they behave in relationships or how they are in life generally. I may not tackle all of them but these are the most common ones.

1. The Voice-Note Pastor's Wife: This is the type of Pastor's Wife who is never satisfied with anything therefore will always complain about anything and everything. She pushes your buttons to the limit everyday, and sometimes it interests her to see you get to the boiling point. Sometimes, she’s just bored and is looking for a fight for some fun. She continues to trigger you to anger and finds it difficult to get satisfaction from a project. How to appreciate others without complaining is her major challenge.

2. The Trust-Gap Pastor's Wife: This one has trust issues. She has probably been cheated on different occasions, or she has seen other people who frustrated her trust in the past. She flashes touch light on almost everything possible — dark spots. She will check your phone every now and then and smell your clothes before cleaning them. She is often jealous and will snoop all over. She can muster the guts to even befriend your colleagues so she can always know what you are up to. She can't delegate a supervisory assignment without joining in the supervision. Her other name is the chief supervisor.

3. The Hands-on-Deck Pastor's Wife: She is married to her work. She doesn’t take failing at anything lightly. All she cares about is going up the social ladder and doesn’t care whose feelings she hurts on her way up there. She won’t give the relationship her all as she has other important things to deal with. She will probably have one child or none at all. And if at all the former, that one child is adopted. She doesn’t have the time to go on maternity leave, that’s just a waste of precious time. She's always on ministry projects. A supportive Pastor's Wife.

4. The Lone Crier Pastor's Wife: This one was born to cry. She is so soft and cries about almost everything. Every little thing makes her cry. If you came home 10 minutes late, you will probably find her crying already because she doesn’t know where you are. She is very emotional, and you wonder how she made it to where she is because she is too fragile for life. 

5. The Emulator Pastor's Wife: This one tries to emulate people in almost everything she wants to do. She copy's trends and never wants to be left behind. She wants everything her friends have even if she can’t afford it. She will do everything she can to get what she wants. No matter what you do for her, she still copy's extra from what she has seen around. She's easily influenced by what she sees around. She always looks nice and keeps up with the fashion trends. She shops at the most expensive stores, and does her hair well, her manicure is always on point…this is just to show you that there’s an invisible warning sign on her forehead that says “no broke moment”. You must be industrious to keep her.

6. The Bossy Pastor's Wife: This one wants to be the boss of everything and everyone. Mrs boss wants to dictate everything, even the relationship. Everything has to be done her way. She is the type that will give ultimatums all through. “You will either do this and that or we are over!”…is a very common phrase in her vocabulary. As her guy, you have to constantly be on your toes when it comes to handling her else, you will constantly be in the dog house. She is probably daddy’s girl and she's therefore used to everything being handed to her on a silver platter.

7. The Home-Made Pastor's Wife: This is probably the sweetest person you will ever meet. She is so kind, so selfless and will definitely take care of you. She probably prefers to be a housewife as she loves taking care of her children and husband. She wants to be involved in every step of her children’s lives. In most cases she has upwards of four children because she has all the time in the world in her hands.

8. The Frugal Pastor's Wife: This lady is afraid of eating life with a big spoon. Instead, the normal spoon will do just fine. She prefers to deny herself life’s little luxuries and would rather save up most of what she can for the future. Manicures and pedicures are a waste of cash and she will buy everything second hand because of their affordable price tags. She would rather live in a shanty because it’s cheaper.  She can do without Milk and meat, apart from maybe when she is craving for it. 

9. The Holy Heart Pastor's Wife: Church is her everything! She always needs to consult everything with the church. She has never worn trousers in her life; as she is afraid they are not appropriate wear hence, her wardrobe is simple and never changes. Long skirts are her things.

Celestine Aneke

Founding President,

The Pastor's Wife Welfare Organization Int'l

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